It’s a common mis-step for many Type 3 women: they narrow it down to Type 2 and Type 3, and they choose Type 2. Why does this happen?
Melissa’s chatting with me about this topic. After her gorgeous Before & After, she opens up about her childhood and how she was always the mediator who kept the peace and cared about others.
She was also comparing herself to other Type 3 family members and thought, “That’s not me!”
But comparison isn’t an assessment tool. After she saw her Type 3 facial features and recognized her “fire breathing dragon” reactions, she knew she couldn’t hide from it anymore.
How do you relate to this? Are your fiery emotions an obvious clue to your Type 3 nature? What pieces of yourself are you rejecting? Once you accept the fullness of who you are, you can manage yourself with compassion. You’re able to make different choices with this new awareness.
What are you learning about yourself that you didn’t know before? Share in a comment!
Thank you for sharing your story with us, Melissa! As a T3/S2, I have been with DYT since January. I live on an Island in a T2 country (Canada) and have been hiding out in my strongly developed S2 nature, working as a care provider for vulnerable adults and the dying as a Hospice volunteer/End of Life Doula. Yet, something was not ‘right’ about how I was playing it safe in my various roles, in my outward appearance, my expression. I was cluebombed by SPAIN last year when my partner took a picture of me in a dynamic, textured environment on the Costa del Sol, wearing a T3 fuscia dress which I felt especially fiesty and hot in. I had been driving a rental car on the crazy highways in the south of Spain that day with my lead T3 energy, boldly practicing my broken Spanish with everyone and walking with more of a sexy strut in my hips. It woke me up out of my S2 trance, which still wants to sedate me into believing she is my primary force in life. She isn’t. So, learning to have an amicable, collaborative relationship with these seemingly opposing aspects is not all easy for me~a continual work in progress. I wish you well on your Journey!
This video was very helpful for me! I’ve been going back and forth between 2/3 and 3/2 since I first learned about Dressing Your Truth almost six years ago. Even after going through the program, being a Lifestyle member, and owning most all of Carol’s book, I struggled. I had a lightbulb moment today and saw how obvious T3 is for me. That comparison trap really caused confusion for me for such a long time. Both of my parents are T3 and because I came from a very broken, dysfunctional family life, I think I did everything I could to not be like them. Or at least, if I was around them, I couldn’t be myself. So I grew up to be a people pleaser, an intense worrier, and tried to live in T2 as a way to protect myself. Even now, I’lI meet very textbook T3 women and think, “Well, they’re way more dynamic and driven than I am. I can’t be the same type.” But I know deep inside that Melissa’s story is also my story. Now I’m just learning how to own my nature and not repeat my parents unhealthy patterns at the same time. Thank you Carol
I loved this video. It reassures me that I am truly a 2/3. If there was an argument or discussion as a child I would get so shaken and hide. There’s no way I would put myself between it. I love a good discussion as long as everyone is okay, the minute it turns more argumentive I’m out of there. Even as an adult.