You’ve changed. You’ve healed. You’re living and dressing your truth.
But your parents are still repeating dysfunctional patterns that you’ve moved on from. How do you handle this?
Today I’m working with Christine and taking her through a visualization exercise that has made profound changes on women’s lives. Join along with us and watch changes take place within your own relationships.
Enjoy these supportive videos for your journey:
Just in time. I’m about to spend a week with my 86 year old mom and I was dreading it, even though I’m so grateful to still have her. I get derailed in my eating and mental health whenever I’m with her for more than a few hours–things I’ve worked really hard on to overcome my childhood. This will help I’m sure. Thanks Carol!
Thank you for this amazing healing session. I am using this to heal with my adult children as well as my family members. ❤️
Yes, I know my sons would like room to work some things out with me, so I’m hoping this helps me create that space for them, too.
I so needed this. I’ve felt so drained this weekend. I hope you do more like this because I truly need it right now.
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I count it as enormous gifts that my parents a) moved us as far away from both sets of grandparents as they could, b) got me therapy at a very early age when it was pretty unusual, c) got us family therapy when I was in high school, so the mechanics of being dysfunctional weren’t invisible [not solved, either, but not hidden and not lied about], and d) kept working out their own healing throughout their lives, leaving us kids free to do so if we wished to [and we did]. It’s with tremendous gratitude I thank them for these things- not that there’s not work to do between my children and myself, but I think my sons, nieces, and grandson are in much better mental health than my siblings and I, and we’re definitely better off than our cousins. I wish I could share this video with my sons, who I know would like to change some things in their relationship with me- but what I can do is give them the freedom to change my script in their own minds, and be open to being changed. I’m also grateful that my mother raised us in Quaker meeting, so the idea of taking time to be alone with the Light of God within is part of my toolbox, & it’s saved me many times.
Yes! The PTSD reaction can be SO strong. I’ve worked to clear a lot of stuff with my parents and a major shift happened last year during Thanksgiving time. I was able to talk with them and they were able to hear me. The main thing I changed was talking about my feelings and my experience rather than pointing the finger and blaming them. I still put what was happening in context, but I didn’t feel shut down for sharing my emotions. I think I’ve shared the same information in the past, but how I shared it made it easier for them to hear it. wow!
Anyway, I love the new script idea. There are still some things that need to be cleared and I know it’s mine to clear. I love that I can imagine them living the new script in a way that is honoring for all of us. Thanks so much! I also see myself with a new script in how I respond to what happens in my life. Nice!