What could be better than sitting down with the very stunning Kalista and Deborah, and being able to ask them any question you wanted?
Well, that does sound amazing. You’re invited to watch the recording of this fantastic online broadcast, Q&A with the Experts, where Kalista and Deborah covered deep and intellectual questions from our Lifestyle community.
Here is just a sample of what was covered:
- How writing can help you sort out worries and anxieties.
- How you can add structure to your daily life when things feel chaotic.
- How a Type 4 special education teacher can state the facts during meetings without coming off as too bold. (Listen for Deborah’s excellent insight on this as a parent of a special needs child.)
- What to do on the days when the typical Type 4 lipstick colors are just too strong for you.
- How to balance your social life when, as a Type 4/2, you feel introverted and love your solitary time.
- How you can pull off a Type 4 pixie with gray hair.
- How to honor where others are at when their standards are not as high as yours.
- How to plan a wedding when the Type 4 wants a small and intimate event, but the Type 1 wants a big and fun wedding with many people. (Kalista’s personal experience with this is hopeful and enlightening.)
- What to do when your Type 3 family members drop by unannounced and disrupt your day.
These questions spark conversation that will inspire you. Our community especially enjoyed the tips about respectful communication when Deborah shared, “How you say things is just as important as what you say.”
We’d love to see your comments about what you loved most from this event. Share how it’s helping you love your life even more!
Type 4 resources mentioned in this broadcast:
- Basic Black Dress + Your Secondary Energy = Perfection
- Perfect Your Type 4 Look with the 5 Components of Style
Items from Kalista’s Type 4 outfit:
Items from Deborah’s Type 4 outfit:
These items were in stock at the time of this recording. If they’re not available anymore, browse the rest of the Type 4 Store. You’re sure to find something else you love!
Thank you! This session was so helpful! I know what it’s like to have people drop in it causes a lot of stress and anixety for me so I’m still working on that. But I’ve found if I go to my bedroom for a little break to collect myself in a much happier person to be around. 🙂
Thank you two for this wonderful session! I appreciated my question being answered. I love the advice given about suggesting places to go in social settings or taking time to research out where the event is. Great advice! I never thought of that previously and know those ideas will help me significantly. 🙂
If things feel as if they’ve gone array I take a few days to re-do the fengshui of the home. I’ve used Maria Konmari’s advice not to organise other people’s stuff just make sure the room is clean. When the house feels good I can cope with chaos that arises
Thanks Ladies. Excellent. For me personally I really appreciated your insight in answering the T4/2 question about dealing with “change” and “new interests”. It makes perfect sense to allow ” time”, thinking, planning, visiting, researching, etc in order to feel “safe” and avoid resentment and/or stagnation. I needed this. Hearing your advice made me have an Ah-Ha reflection about how my feeling of being “stuck” with indecision, at times, is due worrying about safety and the “what ifs”. Thank you for your practical advice on all the questions.
So grateful for the way you ladies share so much in all these four videos. It is so very helpful in understanding other people, as well as oneself! I finally know why my brother gets so mad (in a kind of rigid unrelenting way) at his T3 brother-in-law when he drops in – as a T3 myself I couldn’t see why it was such a big deal. So many insights. Thank you all 🙂
It is so great to have this understanding about each other. Thanks for stopping by to visit us in Type 4 land. You are always welcome, no need to “call ahead of time” 😉
My daughter is a quintessential type 4. It describes her perfectly. However, she looks AWFUL in T4 colors, wouldn’t think of wearing structured clothing, and HATES silver jewelry. Her features are definitely T4, but clothes have to be soft and comfortable for her to even consider them. Until she started college a couple of years ago, she was a serious ballet dancer, so she is very graceful, poised, precise, a perfectionist…and still. She looks amazing in T3 colors, but like she is seriously ill in T4. She is a T4, but the colors and style are completely wrong on her. Please explain how to deal with this!
I’m a 4/1, and loved all of this. Wish all my family who think I’m a bit too bold or (sometimes) cold–when I’m really just exhausted or analyzing–could see this!
I know it’s been a while, but on the wedding thing, we had a mid-size wedding (about 150), but it was almost ALL family and friends of 25+ years. We did full dinner and music at the reception, but none of the dance floor/boom-boom dj stuff; LOL. So, we were both comfortable. He’s a 2/4 or 4/2, not sure which!
Haha! I just got to the “I went to the other room” wedding tip. I hosted Thanksgiving a few years ago, and I ran off to the bedroom for a minute. My dad (who, obviously knows me well), stopped in to check on me. I said: Yeah, I’m fine. Just go make excuses for me for a minute. Tell them I’m on the toilet or something(!). #BOLD
What a great conversation. The more I listen to these videos, the more I recognize my 4/1 nature. My first years with DYT I swore I was a type 1. I realize, now, this is something I wanted. I wanted to be that bright, upbeat, happy woman. I did not want to be the “dark” sister, the type 4 sister. Thank you for sharing your truth and helping me become more comfortable with mine. I so dislike when people “drop by”. On the other side, I say I want people to come over and visit. I realize that wanting my sacred home space – quiet, calm, solitary – is just part of who I am. I can arrange visits on my time and in my way. This has been very helpful.
What a great session this was! I’ve been part of the DYT community for about 3 years, but only just settled on type 4. Listening to Kalista and Deborah’ s discussion I felt like a jigsaw puzzle piece which has finally found where it fits! The whole thing was such confirmation and re-assurance, thank you ladies!
I’m learning that I’m not required to even have an opinion about so many things! My natural tendency as a T4 is, of course, to think about and analyze EVERYTHING!!! lol! But I do not have to. Yay!
I use lipstain rather than lipstick for a less bold look, and partly because I can’t stand lipstick on my mouth.