As a child, you needed your parents’ validation—you wanted to be noticed and praised for who you really were.
But what if that didn’t happen?
I’m joined by Natasha, a bold Type 4 woman, who shares her experience of becoming the missing piece she needed. When she accepted herself, the need for approval dissolved. Does this sound like something you’re currently going through? Leave a comment about how this video helped you.
Resources to support your inner healing:
- A Powerful Visualization to Heal Your Inner Child
- How Energy Profiling Shifted Family Dynamics For This Power Couple
- The Child Whisperer
Omg i am in tears over this. The holidays are always an emotional time for me because i did lose my dad on christmas eve about 6 years ago and i have had an unbelievably toxic relationship with my mother shamming me and allowing my family members to shame me my hobbies my friendships. My family had always excelled in athletics and school and me I’ve been more of an artistic and “nerdy” i like anime films and art, my grades were not anything worth bragging about and i was frequently made fun of for these interest and failures. And being a type 1 i want people to be happy with me and now as an adult am still healing its come to terms with these people don’t accept me I’ve become one of those people that relies on my husband children and friends as my family and limiting my contact with people who don’t seem to genuinely care about me or my family. I am fully aware i have a lot of healing to do thank you for sharing your story it really helped me in my mind at this time in my life. Love and joy.
(((hugs))) Sending love and healing energy for your journey <3
I am so drawn to Natasha! Thank you for having her as a guest again! Natasha, thank you for sharing your experience and pointing out the importance of taking our inner child away from the situation and telling her everything is okay, I love that image and will use it in my continued journey!
I have a question. What’s the difference between a type four debating someone and a type 3’s arguing? At first I thought I was type four because people said I argue a lot, but after looking at my face, I realized I’m a type 3. Then, I kind of wondered whats the difference between debating and arguing?
I am a 4 with a secondary 1, and my adult daughter is a 3/2. From my experience, I will only truly deeply “argue” over something about which I have a very strong opinion. My daughter is much more willing to passionately argue/debate topics that are seemingly more superficial, for which she doesn’t necessarily have a deep opinion. When she does so, it definitely comes across more as arguing than debating. Our family has very lively and intellectually stimulating discussions, but as a 4, I only truly “argue ” if I am very convicted about a subject. Otherwise, it’s true that I can sometimes even play “devil’s advocate” and debate an issue that I don’t even necessarily agree with, just for the intellectual stimulation. Yet debating, to me isn’t the same as “arguing”, in this context. I can debate without feeling a strong opinion, but will only argue when I feel deeply convicted over a topic. Type 3’s are more passionate overall when it comes to opinons and arguing.
Thanks for your reply! My husband is a type 4,1 and I’m pretty sure I’m a type 3,2 and this whole dressing your truth thing has helped me understand him and myself so much better. I used to be a lot more argumentative and passionate and fly off the handle really easily, but since being married to him, I’ve trained myself to take a deep breath and gather lots of details about a subject and facts on it and there by broaden my knowledge and opinion about a subject. That helps me not feel so passionately that I am right
she is absolutely stunning! My heart felt every word …
I remember the moment I realized part of me was still stuck in time as a young child, floundering around trying to figure out what to do or say to make Mommy happy. It was while visiting her. Lots of healing since then. What a good idea, to just take that little me out of the situation. Thank you for that idea.
So freeing to know we never have to be a victim of our past. We’re privileged to be shown this in such simplicity. Thanks.
Thank you for this video. This has been my journey as well. I am T4/3, my mother is T1/2. I felt and still feel often that my parents do not approve of me but thanks to Carol and especially Remembering Wholeness, I am continuing to learn to let go of that need. It is very freeing! I got me!
After a rather long journey with DYT; after having submerged in all the knowledge and wisdom of this wonderful team; after having my thoughtful mind going back and forth, analysing, obssessing and trying to figure this out (figure me out); after listening and connecting to so meaningful experiences and wisdom shared in and by this community…after so many experiences and after so much reflection I’ve become aware of things about myself that I had buried very deep within. I can *only* say THANK YOU. This was one of the videos that most affected me: firstly, it shocked me discovering so many similar experiences, then it became clearer and clearer to me that I was avoiding some big truths about myself. I didn’t even dared to share my thoughts, because I didn’t want to be wrong: “anything but wrong, please, anything but imperfect… Anything but bold, please: anything but being noticed”. Well, as it turns out, I’ve been a wrong (mistaken) bold woman all the time, with some universal “mommy issues”. Type 4 here, coming home at last I hope.
I realize that I’m a type 3 but for years I expressed myself as if I was a type 2. I think 2 is my secondary. I remember acting much more bold when I was a preschooler and that was just the way I was. However, I changed into a too quite people pleaser type of kid in elementary school and as a teen. It carried into adulthood. I have been told at times in my life both that I was too loud and that I was too soft and quiet – usually not at the same time. It seems like types 2 and 3 are opposites. I didn’t even realize I wasn’t being true to who I really was until I started to listen to and read this information. (I’ve always doodled by using shapes. I love the type 3 colors.) I learned when I was young to not speak up, but now I’m learning to speak up for myself and set some boundaries. It is starting to feel more natural.