You remember Stacy from her beautiful Before & After!
She sat down with me to talk about how she has handled unexpected changes in her life.
Did this resonate with you? What have you done with experiences you never planned on? Share a comment below!
More resources to support your inner healing:
- Stacy’s Before & After: This Mom Went From Hiding to Shining!
- How to End People-Pleasing Habits for Good! Healing Session
- The Child Whisperer
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She definitely portrays the joyful, bright, inspiring type 1! I am so impressed with her positive attitude toward the unexpected circumstances in her life.
I really enjoyed this video! Perfect timing for me. I am a 2/1 and would love to hear a conversation from another type two and dealing with a big challenge or a life change. I am currently trying to navigate one and working on not using the word “struggling” 🙂 but I would really love some support from another type to ask you how to navigate a big life change. I am dealing with a special needs son and it has gotten extremely challenging over the last couple of months and I feel pretty much paralyzed at this point and do not know how to move forward. So it would be super supportive to me to hear from another type 2 and from Carol.
I don’t have much advice, but as a T2 mom of kids who have had some health and mental health issues that required a lot from me, I wanted to encourage you to hang in there! My strategy is just to take things day to day and to trust that things will work out. That probably doesn’t sound very T2, but if I let myself get too in to the past or future it can be more overwhelming. Allowing yourself to take care of yourself and do some fun things might help, too, even if they’re just little things like watching some Lifestyle videos!
When you are confronted with a difficult life situation similar to the one Stacy described, there’s really only three productive choices you can make (according to Eckhart Tolle anyway) 1) Change the situation 2) If you can’t change it, remove yourself from it 3) If you can’t remove yourself from it, accept fully as if you had chosen it and see what happens. I can honestly say that this has benefited me greatly. We really do create our own reality- this doesn’t mean that everything is our “fault.” It simply means we do have a choice as to how we RESPOND to circumstances that are beyond our control… Hence- taking “responsibility.” People usually hear the word responsible and equate it with “blame.” But that is an old fashioned, outdated definition of responsibility.
I love what you said here , Elizabeth, and it make me think about my situation. I’m currently living in a big city where I don’t feel connected: I haven’t been able to find “my place” here and I’ve been very unconfortable. I realised a few weeks ago that this cricumstance was a major anxiety trigger for me, and I believe I’m stuck in a pattern of victimism and self-pitty that I detest. I’m anxious all the time and always complaining about my citcumstances…and then I feel bad for that! What you said about taking responsibility was like an answer for my questions! I suspect, by the way, that people with t or s 2 can relate more to that “pity party” feelings?
Thank you for your insights! 🙂
That’s a great question about pity party feelings- I’d love to know how all the different types express that particular dysfunction. For me, I used to do ANYTHING to connect with people- even things I didn’t necessarily want to do. I’d do them anyway so that no one would get mad- and I’d “lose” my connection with them. (Then I’d wonder why I’m so upset all the time!!) And I’d get “put out” with those I was trying to keep that connection with… Because they would NEVER do anything they didn’t want to do – it was always me giving in to THEIR agenda.
I no longer have that dysfunction in my life, and yes, I do have less connections. But you know what? I haven’t been sick in FOUR years, almost five. That is amazing for me- I used to get colds and bronchitis and sinus infections all the time. I can’t tell you how much the quality of my life has improved by not sacrificing my health for the sake of friends and extended family members who used to suck the life out of me.
All that to say- if you want connections with people, let life bring to you those with whom a connection will naturally take place. Life will do this automatically as soon as you trust it to do so- with no expectations of how it will look or come about. It’s not something you have to “make” happen.
“if you want connections with people, let life bring to you those with whom a connection will naturally take place”
Thank you 🙂
You are more than welcome- a warm and thoughtful person such as yourself will attract those kindred spirits in no time… (I wish I could meet you in person!)
Thank you so much, Elizabeth! 🙂
Love this! I, too, give myself pep talks after a day of moping or feeling sad about a situation. I have a choice how I perceive it and have choice about how I deal with it. The Serenity Prayer has been helpful to me throughout my life. My biggest challenge so far in life was when my oldest son was diagnosed with Cornelia deLange Syndrome. I needed time to grieve the life I thought he would have but then embraced the new journey we would be on. I’ve used the opportunity to teach others about his syndrome and to advocate for inclusion and disability awareness. We include him in everything we do and because of his light and loving energy, he tends to draw people to him. He greets everyone he meets and has a way of touching hearts. I have learned that I can’t control everything in my life and sometimes need to just accept what is and make the most of it! Such a gift really!